Should A Christian Get Body Massages?

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Dear reader, hello! The question today is: On the scale of Immoral to Appropriate, what does the bible have to say about getting a body massage? Massages often lead to sensual arousal, particularly for men. So, is it a good idea for Christians to work in this field or take part in its services? Should Christians give or receive a massage? Is massage therapy, for that matter; holistic healing, an idolatrous, new age technique?

We must acknowledge right away that sexual sins are particularly a sin against one’s own body, as such we must look at the immediate implications of our actions when they involve any form of sexual immorality. There isn’t much discussed biblically which mentions therapeutic massages, thus this post won’t be very speculative.

It is typical for Christians, like anyone else, in search of a solution to their legitimate issues of body aches and pains, to consult Massage Therapists albeit secretly. There is a lot of medical evidence supporting the benefits of massages and holistic therapy in general, and it is also a fact that there are practicing Christians who are Licensed Massage Therapists. Unfortunately, like many other professions, Massage Therapy is not excluded from the presence of charlatans and deceivers who unlawfully exploit clients for mischief.

FIRST BIBLICALLY RECORDED MASSAGE THERAPY

In Esther 2, it is recorded that Esther, the young Jewish orphan-cousin of Mordecai that would be future Queen of Persia, as part of her preparations for the empire-wide beauty pageant for the King Ahasuerus to pick a wife – received several treatments of massage and special diet… the regular beauty treatment for the women lasted a year…massages with oil of myrrh for six month and with oil of balsam for six more..

SHOULD A CHRISTIAN GIVE OR RECEIVE MASSAGE THERAPY?

Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman” (I Corinthians 7:1). The type of touch Paul was talking about is not a casual touch, but sexual touches. The reason being that touching another person, to whom you are not married, in a sexual way can lead to certain thoughts and actions.

What comes out of a man, that defiles a man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within and defile a man” (Mark 7:20-23).

Such touches also mean that one is engaged in sexual foreplay with someone to whom you have no right. While a massage can relax tight muscles, there are unethical people who use massages for sexual play. The reason is quite simple, the intense pleasure causes people to desire it again. They use the pleasure produced by your own body to empty your wallet. “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed” (James 1:14).

The bible verse here says “a man not to touch a woman”. As christians, if we must attend the spa or get our body massaged, it would clearly be more appropriate to have this done by someone of the same sex. Women would be better off getting massaged by women and men by men. In today’s society, the excuse for not sticking to this is that it is a very professional scene and many men would rather have a female massage them for fear of looking or feeling “gay”. However, because of the wide change in sexual orientation, it would be even safer to ensure that although the person massaging (masseuse/madam) is of the same sex as you, they also share your sexual orientation. i.e they are hetero and not homo sexual. That way, you aren’t being complicit in any subconscious sexual activity and the spa treatment stays as professional as possible.

Of course it is not always the case that a woman massaging a man or vice versa leads to immorality, there are plenty people who are able to perform their jobs without involving or acting on sexual urges, my mum actually owns a spa currently run by a lady who does treatments for both men and women.

However, as christians we ought to know our weaknesses so we never give the devil a chance or a foothold in our lives. We must be extra careful the kinds of activities we engage ourselves in, particularly where it leads to sexual immorality. This can later trigger feelings of guilt that the devil can exploit and it can also lead to a temptation to continue in the activity rather than repent. Many extramarital affairs often begin with “a massage”. Another reason to be wary of unknown spa treatments is that some involve the use of techniques linked to eastern pagan religions – e.g. “chakra manipulation” to bring healing and relaxation etc.

SPA TREATMENTS & HEALING

Every nation, race, tribe or clan has special people gifted with the knowledge and skill or training to perform “intentional and systematic manipulation of the soft tissue of the body to enhance health and healing” i.e. therapeutic massage or physiotherapy. The medical benefits of this are indisputable. However, some attribute the healing effect of the technique to the recipient’s or therapist’s “innate force”, or occult powers; some credit a so-called “source”, “energy”, or their various gods or idols – e.g. Buddha etc.

To accept the notion that healing is by a person’s “innate force”,or an idol is to deny Almighty God His honor, glory and power . “I am the LORD: that is my name: and my glory will I not give to another, neither my praise to graven images.” Isaiah 42:8. In the Christian scheme of things, Yahweh Elohim, is the One who heals.( Exodus 15:26 ).

No matter how beneficial or effective these treatments are, we must be wary of receiving them from those who do not share our mindset or who attribute the glory of its healing to idols.

SELAH!

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23 thoughts on “Should A Christian Get Body Massages?

  1. The topic I am not seeing addressed, perhaps because it has not been asked, is should a married man or woman get a professional therapeutic massage if his or her spouse is opposed to it.

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    • My husband and I are both Christians. A lady we both know is a Christian and had recently opened a massage therapy business. My husband wants a body massage. Which he will be in his underwear..but covered. She will be massaging his thighs also. I don’t feel comfortable about it. What is your opinion? He is also a deacon of our church.

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      • Never allow your husband to get a massage from any woman, if he wants one then rather get trained on how to do it so that he can get it from you or rather have a male masseur give him.

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      • This article represents the views of a certain Xian group. Their views I stress. Once I was attached to a similar group and sadly the forceful approaches and control made my life a misery. Yes I was keen and committed but had to escape for my minds sake. Remember each religious group holds views only. I can empathise with the husband a deacon. Often vulnerable minds are played on and many move on as I did. Thankfully I’m free. Took years to get there. Married to a wonderful lady with lovely children and grandchildren. Cast aside the dictates of fundamentalist church. Listen to what they say but ensure you form your own views. I’m a Massage therapist by the way and my professional approach caters for men and women.
        John Howell. UK. delwin@btinternet.com

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      • Why can’t you go to a massage course so that you can massage your husband. Its a good thing and it will improve your love life as couples.The bible says wifes must submit to their husbands same applies to husbands too!God bless you!

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  2. Dear D.E,

    Hello! Greetings to you in Christ Jesus. I sincerely empathise with your concerns over this matter. I am not a married woman, so I cannot claim to be speaking from any particular experience of mine, but I do believe that I can at least say something to lend a helping hand.

    First I must mention that it is a good thing that this is a Christian woman that you know (and hopefully trust) who is running this massage therapy business. In this way, she is at least accountable to the same moral standards that you and your husband share in Christ Jesus.

    If you have read through this blog post, then you are already aware of the dangers of this massage therapy issue – because of our flesh as a weakness, no matter how spiritual we claim to be.

    Deacon or not, I believe your husband should be aware that his actions may give room for temptation (Ephesians 4:27, 1 Corinthians 7:2). If he is not in need of massage therapy due to health reasons and in a less intimate area, then perhaps he should reconsider his reasons for contemplating the massage in the first place.

    However, I believe the more important thing is not actually the fact that he is getting a massage but the fact that you are uncomfortable with it. I would like you to think deeply about why you are concerned that he is getting a massage – perhaps you are worried about what might happen during this time or you just don’t like the idea of another woman touching your husband so intimately.

    If this is the case, then you must seriously discuss your feelings with your husband, particularly in light of these scriptures: 1 Peter 3:7 & Ephesians 5:21 (NIV)

    1 Peter 3:7 – Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

    Ephesians 5:21 – Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

    Considering the two scriptures above, perhaps if you communicate your thoughts to your husband and let him know your concerns about this desire to get a body massage then he ought to be considerate towards your feelings on this issue and rethink his decision.

    Grace and Peace to you,

    – Christine
    Senior Editor at Gossip4Jesus

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  3. I’m a married man and have been to both male and female therapist. Usually I’m looking for deep tissue massage since I’m a runner and I go once a month. I do self massage during the weeks in between to keep my muscles worked. This helps with protecting me from injury and fast recovery from workout. I find that women are more sensitive with me when I tell them the pressure is too intense. They have a tendency to work with me when I tell them the pressure is hard. As far as temptation I’m not tempted to go fall into sexual immorality from massage or commit adultery but I’ve had lustful thoughts during and after the treatment. If I desire to go to a female therapist ( not a masseuse) There is a difference between the too I look for someone that I wouldn’t be attractive too. It keeps my mind only on the massage and its easy for me to relax during treatment. I had a therapist that I struggled with from the heart but i was able to find another person that doesn’t temp me. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and the first time we ever kissed was at our wedding after I gave her the ring. So my temptation in a physical scence is not that strong. Can anybody give me any advise as if I’m doing the wrong thing.

    The other thing is that I wouldent think its any different for a male to go to a female massage therapist as it would for a man to go to a female doctor. Women get pelvic exams from men but cant have a man massage them. Its a trust issue with them. We must understand too that therapist are educated and there motive is to do there job and not look at your body in a way that is inappropriate. I think for most men its better to seek the same sex if they are tempted but we must not think there is any difference to go to a female massage therapist then going to a female doctor nurse or chiropractor. they are trained and educated people. Your wife cannot perform the same massage that a therapist (practitioner) could do. Your wife could give you a feel good massage but not necessarily meet your therapeutic needs.

    Don’t get me wrong though. I don’t encourage it if it causes temptation. We have to know ourselves. .i’m personally thinking about doing self massage rather then having someone else do it. I’m stuck on a membership at massage envy for another six months and I cant get out of it unless I have an honest financial excuse.

    Vince

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    • I am a christian and I am a massage therapist. I am married. My husband and I usually get couples massage every year on our anniversary. He is a minister and has never minded my profession or considered it inappropriate. He trusts me to be professional and I would not want to loose my license and career due to my being out of control. I worked for Massage Envy for three years. Now I am independent and I teach massage at a college. Professional massage therapists are trained to view the human body for what is and not as a sex object. In the beginning, it was difficult for me to give my husband a professional massage because we are married and I was used to our touches being associated with intimacy. I eventually learned to separate the two types of touches and can now give him a professional massage. However, I feel like I give a better massage when I am at work and working on a stranger. I was well trained never to mix intimacy with professional massage. It is still challenging for me to see my husband’s body as just another body so I ca give him a professional massage. The good news is that by the same token, I cannot see other bodies as anything other than just bodies.If that were to happen I would refer the client to another therapist. So, I agree with your wisdom in selecting a therapists to whom you are not attracted. We are all human.

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  4. Hello, My brothers and sisters
    I hope that this may ease your mind. I have been a massage therapist for 9 years I am a female and I know God has also blessed me with beauty. I can tell you as a massage therapist in this position I take extra precaution to avoid all temptation that may occur during a session. I pray before, during and after. (Staying away from areas of the body that may produce unwanted arousal) And 100% of the time if a man needs some type of work in the groin it DOES NOT feel good. Its actually quite painful and sensitive area and is only worked if there is need. I am also in constant prayer and meditation from beginning to the end. I know that God has blessed me with many gifts that enhance my massage skills 10 fold. The Lord leads and guides me through his temples his “churches” (the body) we as children of God have to lean on his word to “to take every thought into captivity and to cast down every thought that exhaults its self above God” I assure you this if a man or woman are being tempted by massage they most likely have lust in their hearts (in general) and it may be something that one needs to seek God the father on for deliverance. ( Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks). God tells us over and over “So as a man thinks so is he.” He warns us that every evil thing thought ect. starts within us. We can not blame or pervert a natural and very effective way of healing. If there is lust from therapist to client or client to therapist its because the persons heart is not right. Stay encouraged my brothers and sisters find a therapist that is a believer in christ. So that you can reap many benefits such as ” the laying of hands”, ” two or more gathered in his name”, and ” standing in agreement and asking the lord to bring his divine healing and acknowledge that the healing can only come from God the father. At the end of the day may God get All the glory! I hope this helps as a therapist this is always at the forefront of my mind doing everything I can to prevent the enemy from doing what he seeks to do steal, kill and destroy. I pray for my brothers and sisters that God may lead and guide you to a therapist that can help you, pray with you and ease some of your anxieties about massage therapy.

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  5. Hello all, I am have been so addicted to Asian happy ending massage, I am not able to come out it.. Whenever I go there afterwards I would be filled with guilt and I strongly control myself going there. But after 2 weeks I am driven by my mental health issue I just go again and visit them. I am so full of guilt but I am not able to help myself. Appreciate your prayers.

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  6. Wow! Hmm…how do I even start…I’m a Christian and a Massage Therapy Instructor and this post is very misleading. To say, many affairs start with Massage is unfair because many affairs also begin with a Hello, a look, a smile, a coworker, a church leader, even a good meal.. so yeah this seems pretty absurd anything can lead to an affair even washing your clothes at a public laundromat..
    2nd you cannot know if your therapist is straight or gay beforehand at a spa so that advice goes out the window..
    3rd if the spirit within you is Holy and radiates love and you neglect to love your own body by breathing incorrectly, eating unhealthy, not stretching or exercising or getting massages you are sinning against your temple and focused on the wrong things. It’s the unhealthy mind that would take the opportunity to sin while getting a treatment and not the treatment itself. If you’re worried about being seen or lust you might want to stay away from beaches or pools too.. or even your gynecologist.. make sure their straight too.. don’t want bad thoughts to creep in.

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  7. I am a massage therapist and a christian. I feel the true question here is do you trust yourself or your spouse? Please don’t place sin on the therapist , but I would suggest searching your own heart and mind. At this point, should a women only see a female priest, doctor, teacher, etc and vise versa. There is abuse in every profession and therapist are more likely to have to deal with sinful clients rather than a client having to worry about the intentions of the therapist.

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  8. I am a professional licensed Massage Therapist as well and am offended that you took my honorable profession, working hard with my hands, all for my Lord, and turned it into a cookie cutter erotica. I honestly believe my Lord called me to do this work. My Lord is the source of all healing and all power, I am just lending a hand. I work hard, as do all good LMT’s. Our touch is clinical annd therapeutic, not sexual.

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  9. This article must have been written by a baptist. Sin starts in the heart. You question holistic healing. Perhaps you should rethink taking blood pressure medications etc. that have all sorts of side effects from big pharma. This article is filled with so many ignorant generalizations it’s not worth the time it took to write it

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  10. I’m a male who gets a massage from a female, however, my situation is a little different than the average guy. I have a pain and fatigue disorder and have very little drive. I think this is one of those situations where you can’t make a blanket rule about not seeing a therapist of the opposite sex. For some individuals, I absolutely believe it is a bad idea, but for me, it is like going to the doctor or chiropractor. For many people with medical conditions, anything sexual is the last thing on their mind.

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  11. There are different types of therapy that is under the umbrella of “Massage” (Sports, Table Thai, Medical, Manual Lymph Drainage, etc). After reading the article and the comments, I gather that this isn’t taken into account.
    As a Christian, I make it my goal to bring my faith into my practice by using instrumentals that are from Christian Songs, speaking about my faith when invited, and using imagery that are of Christian origin (I have had Christian clients, who were unaware of my religious background, feel more at ease and more inclined to refer me to others knowing that I am Christian). There are still dangers though, as there are in many professions, but massage just seems to be the one that allows more of an open door for things to happen. But if you are a therapist and your mind is set on fleshly things, then that is what will come out in a session. Same with a client. If you are receiving a massage, You are in control (to a certain degree) of what the Therapist can and cannot do! The therapist already has restrictions by his or her state licensing or certifications and you can ADD on to those restrictions and the therapist must comply, unless you are suggesting something that is out of the therapists Scope of Practice.

    Also, there are no “courses” (not to my knowledge) that will teach a husband/wife to massage their spouse that isn’t overtly sexual in nature (which isn’t a problem since you are married… but be careful what you invite into your marriage bed.. the type of massage I do is NOT the same!) If your spouse questions the fact that you are getting a massage from a member of the opposite sex, COMMUNICATE have a conversation as to why you/they feel that way! I had an instance where this was the case, and I totally understood! I have met both parties on separate occasions and I talked about my practice and they have spoken to people that I have treated (since I work with a chiropractor). The main fear that was brought up to me is that the spouse had a preconceived notion of what Therapists were like. And I told him I understood where he was coming from and that he has every right to feel the way he feels given the climate of how massage is viewed in entertainment. And there are many people out there abusing and perverting their talents. I, for one, paid too much to be licensed just to easily throw it away.

    And yes, There are MANY religious and secular undertones in the art of massage. Not everyone who is a Massage Therapist practices them. As I have stated earlier, I put my faith into my practice. There are things I do not do, just because I know their origin from school and research.

    As the word says “Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.” Everyone is truly able to (and I believe SHOULD) receive a massage (from credible Therapists), but everyone should truly weigh the pro’s and cons if they believe that this will hinder them in any way(Will my spouse be ok with this? Will it damage my testimony/Will it benefit the Kingdom (since many people have already a preconceived notion that massage is Sexual so this also plays a factor in those that are in leadership positions in their local church)? Am I doing this to fulfill a physical desire? Who will be affected by this and how? Etcetera)

    With anything, come to your own conclusion. Ask your therapists questions about their practice if you are unsure… They may be GREAT therapists but they may not be the therapist for YOU! And Pray and Seek wise counsel. I believe this article has opened up a discussion into a realm that very few actually know or even talk about. Those of us that are Christian and just so happen to be Licensed and Certified should not be offended by it, but take the opportunity educate and tell our side as best as possible.

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  12. I am a licensed bodywork therapist, 33 years. I am Christian, but even prior to realizing my acceptance of Jesus as my lord and savior there never would have been the day that I would have used my profession for profit using sex? It would go against the profession, regardless of ones spiritual belief, I would think? When the bible discusses pharmacopeia it is likely to do with the satanic BIG PHARMA, and few Christians blink an eye to use these chemicals that do NO good at the end of the day but suppress the root of the pain. These issues are not the practitioners but are in the client. When I work with my clients I actually do not ask them if they are Christian, and I rarely even discuss my faith with them unless I know who I am dealing with, I simply am hired to help with what is ailing them. Personally I would be happy if all my clients were Christian and as always your husband is safe with me, WOW! You do know that you created the sin.

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  13. Too mention one other thing, Iatrogenic IS am actual thing. It is a simple and pure theory and nowhere in the bible does it challenge reality. It is possible that someone could quite easily become very ill, or actually die from the medication given to ‘help’. Not to say it will happen to everyone that takes the medicine really the wellness of the person has to be taken into account as well and someone walking in Jesus can likely be that person.
    Unless people are expendable then who gives someone the right to cause someone harm?
    You do realize that many harmful drugs were given to Jews in Nazi concentration camps as well as what the side effects of cyanide were by hearing, smelling and watching what happens to these people on dying….I am appalled truly by how many people do did and try to shove a reality down the throats of innocence.
    Syphilis was given on experiment to black men, Mercury was used for 600 years to COMBAT syphilis, black men were given treatment for BOTH and recuperated many that had no faith, received those that had plenty, excelled… maybe being well is a better way to enter the Kingdom of God, doesn’t Jesus have something better to do with his time than healing people of their own idiocy? how about teaching them how to create a better existence for themselves and those that are here, too? Why else would the bible say LOVE your brother?
    I have a very god walk with my Lord and he has not shown me the truth of the perpetuated lie on ‘these things never happened in history, theory’. When he tells me the word I hear him and know. But blasphemers of truth will never enlighten me.

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